“When the father is late, the mother has a choice. She can criticize him and say, ‘Oh, he’s such an irresponsible guy and he cares more about his girlfriend than he does about you.’

Or she can think about what she would say if they were still happily married and she didn’t want to undermine the child’s respect for his father.

She might say, ‘Oh, dad is always late for things. Lots of people are. I wish dad were better at being on time. But he’ll be here soon. Let’s find something to do until he arrives.’ “

— Constance Ahrons, The Good Divorce