UC Berkeley scientists have discovered that couples who use pronouns like “we”, “us” and “our” in their conversations are happier and have healthier relationships than couples who use “I” and “you”.
The researchers analyzed the speech patterns of couples while they talked about disagreements in their marriages. Couples who used “I” and “you” tended to be more stressed, less close and unhappy.
The study concluded the reason for this is that successful couples have a sense of unity with each other. This helps them resolve conflicts, grow closer together and have more positive behavior toward each other.
Emerald Catron at lemmondrop.com, however, finds referring to yourself as “we” rather annoying if you’re not the Queen of England.