The Scarlet “D”

Micah Toub, writing for Canada’s Globe and Mail, says he feels like his marriage was a success even though it ended in divorce.   While the bride and groom say they will stay together until death do us part, it doesn’t always work out that way.

Toub says the end of a marriage no longer leaves one with a scarlet ‘D’ on their relationship résumé.  Rather than view his marriage as a failure, Toub thinks it was a successful relationship.  “Unfortunately,” he says, “trying to perceive one’s ended marriage as a success doesn’t have a lot of cultural history.”

His ex-wife agrees and says,  “You would never say that was a lousy dinner party last night – everyone left.  And when you finish reading a book, you don’t think the book failed because it didn’t go on forever.”