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I was listening to the gang at The Kane Show on the radio as I drove to work. They were talking about a Mother-in-Law Prenup. A Mother-in-Law Prenup is an agreement signed before marriage to ensure grandparent visitation rights if one of the spouses dies or divorces.

You could also have a post-nuptial agreement, and it could be a Father-in-Law agreement. Or you could have a Grandparent’s Agreement even if the parents are not married.

While the parties may abide by the agreement, it may be unenforceable if they do not. The courts have the power to decide what visitation is in the best interests of the child. And the US Supreme Court decided in Troxel v. Granville, 530 U.S. 57 (2000), that a parent’s visitation schedule is presumptuously better for the child than a grandparent’s visitation schedule.

The grandparents can overcome the presumption but it’s not easy to do. On the other hand, the parent will have to be prepared to explain why they thought the grandparent visitation schedule was in the child’s best interest when they signed the agreement and why they do not think so now.

While driving to the office this morning, I turned on “The Kane Show” on Hot99.5 FM.  Kane invited callers to tell him and his entourage about a relationship dispute and they would decide who was right and who was wrong.

What a great idea!  I have often said that people in relationships have different agendas and they need a good conflict resolution system.

Marriage counselors can help, but they cost money, and frequently tell you that you are both right (in alternative universes), which may be true, but  it is not very satisfying.

Divorce is the ultimate conflict resolution system, but it has some serious drawbacks.  It’s expensive and time-consuming.  Sometimes the judge doesn’t tell you who was right and who was wrong.  And even when the judge does tell you, the judge frequently gets it wrong.

So we have decided, as a public service, that you can post your relationship conflicts in the comments section, and we will tell you who is right and who is wrong.  We reserve the right to be arbitrary and capricious, but at least it won’t cost you an arm and a leg.