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I’m gonna leave you now
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So goodbye
Goodbye
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It turns out that thermostat settings are one of the biggest causes of conflict in marriages.  The wrong setting can cause one spouse to be too cold or too hot, and result in talks of divorce.

It’s not just mental either.  Scientists say that women have a lower body mass to surface area, slower resting metabolism and less muscle mass than men.  Therefore, they may feel more comfortable with warmer temperatures.

Financial considerations might come into play as well.  In the summertime, you can save between one to three percent on your air conditioning bill for each degree you set the thermostat over 72 degrees.

We found another way to raise money for your divorce.  Worthy.com is a website that has online auctions where professional jewelry buyers will bid for the diamond in your engagement ring.

Unlike mining diamonds from the earth, which can harm indigenous peoples and the environment, Worthy.com mines the largest cache of diamonds on earth – us.  After all, there is no physical difference between a new diamond and a used diamond.

Worthy.com will grade your diamond, take pictures and post it for auction.

Heather Mills got that much in her divorce settlement with Sir Paul McCartney in 2008.

“Most of it’s been given to charity, gone into ethical businesses or paid for a couple of properties for my daughter’s future security,” said Mills in an interview on Shrink Wrap.

DigitalSpy.com reports the money has all been spent.  It only took two years to spend it.  I wonder how long it took McCartney to earn it?

An article from the St. Louis Post Dispatch says the hard economic times are causing some couples to stay together before, during and even after they divorce.

With home values shredded and retirement assets dwindling, many unhappy couples are realizing they don’t need to spend more money on divorce lawyers, and they are more willing to compromise and settle.

One husband said he didn’t have the money to move out, so the couple stayed together during the divorce, and when it got too stressful, he went to the movies or she went out with friends.

“My attorney was very up front with me,” he said. “She said, ‘The more you guys (argue) about this, the more it’s going to cost you.'”

I am not in favor of dirty tricks in a divorce.  Others are not so straightforward.  So it pays know what they are so you can defend yourself if they happen to you.  According to English lawyer Marilyn Stowe, the top ten divorce dirty tricks are:

1. Moving the spouse to a different country in order to obtain a more favourable divorce settlement. (In the U.S. however, a spouse can move to more favorable state.  This is called forum shopping.)

2. Covert surveillance of a spouse by bugging the phone, the car, the office — or by employing an enquiry agent. (Private detective in the U.S.)

3. Secretly photocopying every scrap of financial information in the house and office. Also: downloading everything from a spouse’s computer, and later pretending that he/she didn’t realise what he/she was doing.  (Or destroying information after discovery issues in the U.S.)

4. Salting away as much money as possible, ready for that “rainy day”. (Dash Cash)

5. Damage, destruction, or sale of the household’s most valuable contents.

6. Spending money wildly, as a form of “payback”.

7. Assaulting the spouse and the new partner.

8. Using a “friend” as a spy, to gain access to the lawyer’s office and learn at firsthand what is going on.

9. “Conflicting out” the spouse’s lawyer.

10. If all else fails…running off with the divorce lawyer!

Read the complete article at First Wives World.

John Thyden was quoted in an article on Marriage and Money in Good Housekeeping:

“Financial issues are the primary reason for 90 percent of divorce cases I handle,” says John Thyden, a prominent Washington, D.C., divorce attorney. “But it isn’t necessarily the amount of money a couple has that tends to trip them up. It’s the differences in their spending habits and especially their lack of communication.”

And Mary Beth Long, who writes the VA Family Law Blog, had these mellifluous words to say about us:

“Keeping it short, succinct and entertaining. The gent who writes the Maryland Divorce Legal Crier has a neat style. It is like a New Yorker cartoon morphed into a family law blog: quirky, entertaining and thought-provoking but, best of all, brief.  He may quote lyrics from a country song, give marriage preservation tips or explain the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic fraud. All is a couple hundred words. Bravo!”

I knew I should have paid more attention in math class.

Oxford Professor, James Murray, claims he has developed a mathematical model to predict divorce, according to an AFP article.

Murray and his team studied 700 new marriages for a twelve year period.  They filmed the couples discussing issues like sex or money for fifteen minutes.  Then they gave grades for each statement.  Humor and affection got positive scores.  Anger or defensiveness got negative scores.

The scores were used to predict the likelihood of divorce.  The couples were then contacted every two years to see if they were still together or not.   The results?  Murray’s formula was correct 94% of the time.

This post was contributed by Kelly Kilpatrick, who writes on the subject of a police detective. She invites your feedback at kellykilpatrick24 at gmail dot com.

If you’ve seen someone go through a bitter divorce and the even uglier child custody battle, you’ll know that the courts are not generally favorable towards the father, especially when it comes to securing custody of the child. Some fathers are happy to wash their hands of the responsibility of child rearing, but others are left devastated when their spouse gets sole custody and they’re asked to pay child support and alimony too in some cases.

Most judges are predisposed to awarding custody to the mother, simply because she is the one who’s had more time with the child, especially if he or she is pretty young. When you’re on the verge of a divorce, it’s hard to be rational and think before you act. But when it comes to your children and the fact that a court is going to tell you how you’re going to be allowed to relate to them for the rest of your life, you must put your emotions aside and use your head alone to save yourself a whole lot of trouble.

The first thing to do is to make your divorce amicable; I know it’s the hardest thing to do, part on good terms with someone you don’t want to live the rest of your life with. But if you share children, it’s the mature thing to do. This has a host of advantages, especially to you as the father. You don’t say things you may regret later, things that if overheard by your youngster, could end up harming your reputation in his or her eyes. Remember, your child is likely to be influenced by your spouse, so it’s best to remain on cordial terms with her.

A friendly divorce also allows you both to save a ton of money – you can bypass the lawyers altogether, seek joint custody of your children and reach a mutually satisfactory amount for child support and alimony. Better still, you remain on good terms so that your children feel secure even though you’re divorced.

I know I’m painting a pretty rosy picture where your spouse agrees to an amicable divorce and joint custody, but it’s worth a try, for yourself and your children. Rather than assume that your spouse would never go along with your suggestions, and that she is out to hurt you, be gracious enough to give in once in a while. After all, you were in love with the woman once, and by being the bigger person, you save yourself an acrimonious divorce proceeding and a lot of money in the process. Your spouse may also feel the need to relent once she sees how reasonable you’re being, so go ahead, give it a try. You’ve nothing to lose (other than what you will even if you don’t try) if it doesn’t work out, and everything to gain if it does.

‘This is worse than a divorce. I’ve lost half my money and I still have a wife.’

-Unnamed Investor

“Money, Money, Money”

by

Abba

I work all night, I work all day, to pay the bills I have to pay
Ain’t it sad
And still there never seems to be a single penny left for me
That’s too bad
In my dreams I have a plan
If I got me a wealthy man
I wouldn’t have to work at all, I’d fool around and have a ball

Money, money, money
Must be funny
In the rich man’s world
Money, money, money
Always sunny
In the rich man’s world
Aha-ahaaa
All the things I could do
If I had a little money
It’s a rich man’s world

A man like that is hard to find but I can’t get him off my mind
Ain’t it sad
And if he happens to be free I bet he wouldn’t fancy me
That’s too bad
So I must leave, I’ll have to go
To Las Vegas or Monaco
And win a fortune in a game, my life will never be the same