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January is “Divorce Month” and Tuesday will be “Divorce Tuesday” because it is the first day the lawyers’ offices will be open for business in 2017.  Divorces typically spike right after the holidays.

Will the divorce lawyers at Thyden Gross and Callahan be hearing from you in 2017?  Marriage therapist, Dr. John Gottman, says the number one predictor of divorce is contempt.

Contempt is rolling your eyes at your spouse.  Or calling their point of view ridiculous.  Feeling disgusted with your partner or having other negative feelings about them is contempt too.

But contempt is fixable.  Avoid contempt signals like rolling your eyes, smirking, or making negative comments.

Allow your partner to be different from you and different from your expectations.  Learn to compromise.