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Ellen Gray and Jane Fields, friends who grew up together in Alexandria, Virginia, both of whom have small children, discovered their husbands were having affairs around the same time last year.

In a Eureka moment, the two women created LousySpouse.com, which they launched this summer with a kickoff at the Sequoia in Washington, DC.

Their site has a breezy style that’s a pleasure to read, and plenty of features like free work sheets and forms, checklists, a glossary of divorce terms, Q&A’s, and a discussion and support forum.   If you’re not sure if you have a lousy spouse, you can take the Lousy Spouse Test.

The site has been featured in the Washington Times and the Washington Post published a transcript of Jane’s online answers yesterday to some good questions, like “Should you tell a friend that her spouse is cheating?”

The infamous “C Street House” will make a good novel and movie.  The Christian home for legislators near the U.S. Capitol Building in Washington, DC seems to be another Peyton Place.

The Associated Press reports that earlier this week Leisha Pickering filed a lawsuit against Elizabeth Creekmore Byrd of Jackson, Mississippi, for alienation of affection (a suit that is barred in MD, VA and DC but not in Mississippi).

Mrs. Pickering is divorcing Chip Pickering, a former Republican Congressman, now a lobbyist.  She alleges that Chip Pickering and Creekmore Byrd had an affair while Pickering was in Congress and living at the C Street House.

WUSA TV News Anchor, Andrea Roane, interviewed TGC Attorney, Jill Breslau, today about South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford’s marital difficulties.

“Right now it appears that Governor Sanford is more intent upon self-justification than he is on changing himself,” said Breslau.   “His behaviors have been completely inconsistent with the values he says he holds, and he is glamorizing his relationship, and characterizing himself as a tragic hero, because he has risked everything for it—his marriage, his family, his political life, his reputation.  Only if he inflates the meaning of his affair is it worth all those potential losses.”

Regarding putting his marriage back together, Breslau, who is also a trained psychotherapist, said, “As much as the public finds it irresistible to be judgmental about Sanford’s behavior, a primary purpose of counseling is to have a private, confidential setting where the therapist is nonjudgmental.”

Paul Simon, in his famous song, told us there must be fifty ways to leave your lover. I wonder if he counted the two new ways we saw on television this week:

1.  Use Your Reality TV Show.

Monday night, John and Kate Gosselin announced their separation and intention to divorce on cable tv.  This came amid months of tabloid speculation concerning extramarital affairs.  The show got its highest ratings ever.  The parties say they are going to split custody of their eight children equally.  The children will stay in the house and the parties will alternate living there in what is called a nesting arrangement.

2.  Call a Press Conference.

On Wednesday, Mark Sanford, 49, governor of South Carolina, held a news conference and announced that he had been unfaithful to his wife.  He had been missing for several days and told his staff that he was going hiking on the Appalachian Trail.  However, a newspaper report confronted him in Atlanta getting off a plan arriving from Buenos Aires, Argentina.  His public confession came just before the newspaper broke the story of his mistress in Argentina.

Dr. Richard Batista, a surgeon in New York, met his wife, Dawnell Batista, when he was working in a hospital and she was training to be a nurse.  They married in 1991 and had three children together.

In 2001, Dawnell needed a kidney transplant.  Richard donated one of his.

A couple of years later, Richard claims Dawnell started an extramarital affair.  She sued for divorce in 2005 and they have been battling it out since then.

Richard, apparently frustrated by a lack of progress in the negotiations, held a press conference and demanded his wife return his kidney.  Alternatively, he will agree to settle for $1.5 million in compensation for his loss.

New York divorce attorneys don’t give him good odds of winning this one.

Source: USA Today

A false internet rumor got started yesterday that Cindy McCain was having an affair with a Maryland divorce lawyer. Google Trends will tell you the keywords for the day that people are searching for and talking about on the Internet. A blogger named Corey Palmer may have put the hot key phrases “Cindy McCain” and “Maryland Divorce Lawyer” in a silly, made-up story to draw searchers to his blog, Corey’s Hijinks. In the article called “Cindy McCain’s Affair”, Palmer stated:

“Looks like some dirt has just some out of the woodwork — a Cindy McCain affair? It doesn’t take an Maryland divorce lawyer to know what is going to happen next if this is true. A Maryland divorce lawyer (why that state? I don’t know, first one I thought of LOL). There not even from that state are they?

C’mon….I don’t think there has been an affair of any kind. Sorry, Mr. Maryland divorce lawyer, nothing to see here. But what would have happened if there was? I think people like to start these stories of husbands and wives not getting along, cheating on each other and everything else.

It’s sad all the stories that come out at these times. And it is sad to be teasing any of the Maryland divorce lawyers into thinking that there is a marriage being split up! Leave these families alone!”

In spite of the fact that this was obviously a bogus story, other blogs picked it up as true, and it gained a momentum all its own.