A Story of Balancing Mother’s Rights and Father’s Rights
“My client was shocked to learn that your client has enrolled their 5 year old son in the swim team at the community pool,” the letter from the mother’s divorce lawyer started.
The father’s lawyer scanned it to the father by email. By the next day he had received three drafts of a four page letter from the father explaining all the benefits of swim team. The father wanted the lawyer to send the letter to the mother’s attorney.
“Wait until I speak with her,” the lawyer told the father.
“Why?” asked the father. “I want her to know, for the record, that I’m not the bad guy here. And I didn’t do it just because my new girlfriend is the coach of the swim team.”
“First of all,” replied the father’s lawyer, “she won’t believe you. Second, there is no record. Third, I don’t try my case in letters. And finally, I don’t know why, but my intuition and experience tell me to wait until I speak with opposing counsel.”
Five days later, the mother’s attorney called. The mother was concerned that she had been left out of the decision making process. She wanted to know how many lifeguards were on duty, their ages, and what training they had. These were easy to provide and the problem was solved. The father’s letter was put in the file and never sent.