Scott Dekraai, 41, allegedly walked into the beauty salon where his ex-wife worked and killed her and seven other people yesterday in Seal Beach, California. They were involved in a bitter custody battle over their 8 year old son.
I think there is a rage reaction lurking in all of us. Most of us keep it under control. But emotions are strong and they can overwhelm logical thinking.
I’ve had clients who have let their anger involve them in domestic violence. I’ve had clients who have directed their anger inwardly and tried to commit suicide. When I asked them why, they said something like “I don’t know. I just snapped.”
My advice? No matter what happens in your divorce, get control of your anger. And have a big flashing neon sign in the back of your mind that says “The best revenge is living well.”