Comes word of a study, as reported by Timothy Boyer on EmaxHealth.com, of a common personality trait among people who fared better than others in divorce.

“Self-compassion—a combination of kindness toward oneself, recognition of common humanity, and the ability to let painful emotions pass, says psychologist David A. Sbarra “can promote resilience and positive outcomes in the face of divorce.”

According to Dr. Sbarra,” Understanding your loss as part of bigger human experience helps assuage feelings of isolation.  Mindfulness—noting jealousy or anger without judgment or rumination—lets you turn your mind to life in the present without getting stuck in the past.”

Dr. Sbarra believes that self-compassion can be learned and should be part of counseling for people going through a divorce.