There is no easy way to bring up this conversation.  Some people just can’t do it, and pay their lawyers to send a letter to their spouse asking for a divorce or separation agreement.

But when clients ask me how to do it themselves, I give them this advice.  Use questions.  Here are some of the questions I suggest to get the discussions started.

Are you happy with our marriage?
Do you think I’m happy?
What should we do about it?
Do you think we would be happier if we separated?
When you look at our future together, what does it look like?
Do you want a divorce?
Do you think one of us ought to see a lawyer?