FirstWivesWorld.Com is celebrating Mother’s Day the whole month with a series of articles on children and divorce. I think that several of these articles apply to fathers as well. For example there is an excellent article by Dr. Scott Haltzman on creating two homes for the children after a divorce.
Dr. Haltzman recommends that each parent create an individual space exclusively for the children, which includes:
- A sleep area specifically dedicated to the children
- Age appropriate space in the bathroom for toiletries or make up
- Uncluttered room to study or do homework
- A storage area or closet for your children’s belongings
- Designated space to play or exercise.
“Even if you have a fold out bed, and a desk that pulls out from under a table, with a bath basket of special supplies, your children will get the message that they have a home with you, says Dr. Haltzman.
He also provides this list of basic necessities to give children a sense of identity and belonging:
- Personal clothes (especially undergarments)
- Study materials (paper, computer, no. 2 pencils-you get the idea)
- Books and toys that reflect your child’s personal tastes
- A means of communication (cell phone, land line, etc) between your ex- and your children
- A daily planner or calendar to help you child keep track of his or her schedule.
- Finally, it must be a home to your child. And the only ingredient you need for that is your love.