Last night my wife and I went to a music recital at our son’s elementary school. Our son is learning to play the saxophone. By happenstance, I sat down between my wife and another lady who lives and sells real estate in our neighborhood.
There were a few minutes before the concert started so the women talked across. The conversation was small talk. I tried to tune most of it out. But I heard that her cat and our cat have the same illness. She was the agent for friends of ours trying to purchase a house in the neighborhood. She knew all about the new house built next door to ours. I was glad when the recital finally started.
But this morning I had a strange feeling. I felt a sense of belonging, a sense of neighborhood, a sense of community. It is comforting to know that we share common experiences with our fellow human beings.
People going through a divorce are frequently cut off from their usual community activities. They may be too depressed or too embarrassed to see people they know. Men especially tend to try to solve problems by themselves in isolation. But divorce is a problem that is too big for one person to solve. It is very important for anyone going through divorce or separation to reach out for support to friends, relatives, religious leaders, therapists or support groups. We all need a community.