Tipper Gore and Al Gore announced in an email to friends that they are separating and divorcing after 40 years of marriage. They said they labored over the decision for a long time and reached a mutual agreement to live separately. The reason given was that they had grown apart.
My wife and I have different pursuits. She stays home with our children. She is the president of the PTA. She is working on a local political campaign.
I manage a busy law office and spend most days puzzling out how to untangle complex financial relationships between divorcing spouses. Sometimes, while I am in the middle of a million dollar deal, and trying hard to concentrate on some troublesome aspect, my wife will call me. The fish died, my son made the swim team, what was in that salad we had last week, and oh by the way we need milk.
Do I stop what I’m doing, take a deep breath and redirect my mind to her world? You bet.
We are different, but we respect the differences, sometimes even finding humor in them. We have different worlds but they intersect at home, family and raising our children. We interact, communicate and participate. Growing apart is a decision you make. The opposite decision is staying together.