A wife can ask the divorce court to change her name back to her former name at the divorce hearing in Maryland. Under common law, you can call yourself anything you want to as long as it is not to defraud anyone or interfere with their rights. Maryland law is the same. But sometimes a court order will make it easier to change things like a driver’s license, social security, bank accounts and credit cards. You can petition the court to change your name, but you avoid the extra cost by asking for it at your divorce hearing.

The court granted an emergency divorce the same day it was filed to the wife of the BTK Killer on grounds of mental and physical distress.

The judge did not think it was too funny when a witness testified in a battery case in a shirt that said “Wanna raise some hell?” on the front and “Hell yeah!” on the back. He was jailed for contempt of court. It is always a good idea to wear proper attire to divorce court. This improves your credibility on the stand and avoids distractions according to a Washington Post article from the Associated Press.

The State of Our Union 2005, an annual report by the National Marriage Project at Rutger’s University, states that divorce and marriage rates have been on the decline for the last twenty years. Meanwhile, more couples are deciding to live together without the benefit of marriage, and about eight percent of households in the USA are now made up of unmarried couples. Forty percent of these households have children. But cohabiting couples have twice the breakup rate of marriages.

About one out of two marriages will end in divorce, according to divorcerate.com, and the odds are even worse for second and third marriages.

Pro se means do it yourself. More than half of all divorces involve no attorneys or attorneys only for one side. You are not required to have an attorney in a divorce. The Montgomery County Commission for Women in Rockville, Maryland, is a great place to obtain information about pro se divorce in Maryland for a nominal cost. Here is a schedule of seminars for July and August.

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Here’s another typical divorce scenario. The husband is very successful in business as a result of his ability to control his environment. Because this works for him in the business world, he tries to apply the same tools at home with his family. But most people do not like to be controlled in social situations. Eventually the relationship breaks down.

“If you’ve only been married once, you just don’t like people.” — Anon

Spend a day like I did yesterday in District Court in Rockville, Maryland, listening to petitions for protective orders and peace bonds, and you will be depressed about human nature. I sat through cases about late night telephone calls, curses, threats, pulling hair, hitting walls, shoving, pushing and more. Argue all you want, but when it crosses the line to threats and physical abuse you will get in a lot of trouble real fast.

After you have been a divorce lawyer for as long as I have, 30 years or so, you begin to see some patterns in your cases. One is the Walk Away Wife Syndrome.

There will be about a million divorces this year. And the majority of them will be filed by women.

Men and women handle their relationships differently. A woman monitors the relationship, and if she becomes concerned about it, she tries to fix it. To a man, this may seem like complaining. A man might react to it by withdrawing. Neither party’s needs are met.

The woman may suppress her feelings, in hopes that the man will change. Finally, the wife believes she has only one choice for happiness which is separation and divorce. This is called the Walk Away Wife Syndrome.

The man is often caught unaware by this, and even if he tries to change now, it is too late.