Stay at home mom

My wife and I had our annual argument last night about who has the harder job. I am a high pressure lawyer and she is a stay at home mom. I thought I would win hands down.

She came armed with some statistics, however. According to the mom pay wizard calculator at Salary.Com, the typical stay at home mom  works 40 hours at base pay and 52 hours overtime for a total of 92 hours a week.

Mothers perform ten jobs at home, namely:

  • cook
  • housekeeper
  • day care center teacher
  • laundry machine operator
  • van driver
  • facilities manager
  • janitor
  • computer operator
  • chief executive officer
  • psychologist

Salary.Com also says it would take $138,095 a year to buy those services if she did not perform them. So who has the harder job in your marriage? Leave a comment.

James J. Gross and Lois R. Finkelstein, of the law firm of Thyden Gross & Callahan in Chevy Chase, Maryland, have been selected as District of Columbia Super Lawyers for 2007. They are listed among the top 5% of lawyers in the D.C. area practicing family law as a result of a survey by Law & Politics. Gross and Finkelstein were also selected as Maryland Super Lawyers previously this year.

On Tuesday, March 20, 2007, 7:00PM – 8:45PM, I’ll be presenting a workshop, “WORKING SUCCESSFULLY WITH YOUR DIVORCE ATTORNEY,” at the Montgomery County Commission for Women, 401 North Washington Street, Rockville, Maryland.

I will be talking about the best ways to select an attorney, keep costs down, work with an attorney, retainers, billing, and how to reach a successful outcome in your divorce.

For example, one of the first things I will be discussing is objectives. Do you want to divide assets, establish a parenting plan, and set support? Or do you want revenge or for the judge to decide who was the better spouse? Setting objectives early is critical.

I will also provide handouts and explain my famous settlement/trial notebook. At $16 for almost two hours of my time, it’s a bargain.

Lawyers usually handle the legal and financial issues in a divorce and leave the emotional issues to a counselor or therapist. But I keep a box of tissues on my desk because people cry a lot in my office.

Divorce hurts, whether you are the one that’s left or the one that’s leaving. There is not a lot of help or information out there about dealing with the pain of divorce.

I stumbled across yourromanceguide.com, a site that has some tips and articles on the emotional issues in separation and divorce.

Although the international situation is desperate as usual, divorce is in the news again today.

CARMEN ELECTRA, former “Baywatch” star and DAVE NAVARRO, former guitarist with the Red Hot Chili Peppers, are amicably separating after their 2003 wedding on MTV’s “Til Death Do Us Part”.

PAUL MCCARTNEY has hired divorce lawyer Fiona Shackleton to handle his divorce from HEATHER MILLS. Shackleton represented PRINCE CHARLES in his divorce from DIANA, PRINCESS OF WALES.

And, since divorced people are just people between marriages, these two stories about marriage caught my attention.

Two bachelors wanted to find out the secret of amazing marriages. So they started interviewing peopole with long marriages. They have written a book and made a video called Project Everlasting.

And divorce attorney Paul Sullivan has started Marriage Miracles in LaVale, Maryland, a faith-based service which helps couples having difficulty in their marriage. In his office, Sullivan offers two menus, one for divorce and one for marriage. Seems like a good idea to me.

I can never remember which financial statement I have to file and when – the nine page long form at Rule 9-203(a), the one page short form at Rule 9-203(b) or none at all. Fortunately, the answer is provided in Maryland Rule 9-203:

(e) Financial statement – Spousal support. If spousal support is claimed by a party and either party alleges that no agreement regarding support exists, each party shall file a current financial statement in substantially the form set forth in Rule 9-203 (a). The statement shall be filed with the party’s pleading making or responding to the claim. If the claim or the denial of an agreement is made in an answer, the other party shall file a financial statement within 15 days after service of the answer.

(f) Financial statement – Child support.– If establishment or modification of child support is claimed by a party, each party shall file a current financial statement under affidavit. The statement shall be filed with the party’s pleading making or responding to the claim. If the establishment or modification of child support in accordance with the guidelines set forth in Code, Family Law Article, §§ 12-201 – 12-204 is the only support issue in the action and no party claims an amount of support outside of the guidelines, the required financial statement shall be in substantially the form set forth in Rule 9-203 (b). Otherwise, the statement shall be in substantially the form set forth in Rule 9-203 (a).

So if you are asking for alimony, file the long form with your complaint or within 15 days of filing your answer.

If you only want guidelines child support, file the short form with your complaint or answer. But if you want child support in excess of the guidelines, file the long form with the complaint or answer. It’s all in Maryland rule 9-203.

Dr. Nicholas Bartha, 66, of New York recently sent an email to his ex-wife wife saying:

“When you read this … your life will change forever. You deserve it. You will be transformed from gold digger to ash and rubbish digger. You always wanted me to sell the house. I always told you I will leave the house only if I am dead.”

Tuesday morning, the six million dollar town house in New York exploded, injuring 15 people including Dr. Bartha who was pulled alive from the wreckage.

Police and fire officials say a gas line had been tampered with, according to CNN.com.

Divorced in 2005 on grounds of cruelty, Dr. Bartha lost a recent appeal, resulting in a four million dollar judgment against him by his ex. The house was being auctioned to pay for it. He had been served eviction papers on Friday.

Todd Hollis of Pittsburgh is suing Tasha Josephs for defamation after several women posted comments about him on a website called Dontdatehimgirl.com according to this article on Wired News.

Hollis, an attorney himself, says the website does not have safeguards to ensure the truthfulness of the items posted.

Josephs says it is a cost-effective weapon in the war on cheating men. The website says Dontdateherman.com is coming soon.

The U.S. Supreme Court ruled unanimously in favor of Anna Nicole Smith in her law suit to try to collect 88 million dollars from the estate of her late husband. This was not a final ruling on the merits.

Smith, former Playmate of the Year and topless dancer, married Texas oil billionaire, J. Howard Smith in 1994 when she was 26 and he was 89. She said he promised her half his estate.

She lost her case in Texas probate court. But she won in federal bankruptcy court in California. Then the U.S. Court of Appeals said the state court action preempted the federal court action and she could collect nothing. The U.S. Supreme Court today overturned that decision.

Denise Richards, 35, has obtained a Protective Order against Charlie Sheen, 40. Her 17 page affidavit, filed in their divorce and custody battle, has been published on the Internet. If you don’t want to read it, here is the summary: drugs, gambling, hookers, abuse and porn. Sheen replies, “I deeply regret her response to my request for the court to decide what’s best for our children has taken the form of baseless allegations that I deny. For the sake of my children, I am electing not to reciprocate in kind.”